Deadliest Catch will never be the same.

The opening scene, season 7 of Deadliest Catch was an emotional one. As we watched our beloved Captain Phil Harris be laid to rest. His ashes placed in a crab pot, set down into the Bering Sea. Surrounded by his father, sons, friends, crabbing family. As viewers, This was our final goodbye. Even though many of us knew what was to be aired. It was another gut wrenching moment of reality, that Phil has left us, drifted onward to his next path.

From the beginning, this show or should I say Captain Phil, captured my attention, later my heart. Television shows are not usually my desired form of entertainment. Especially reality shows which are anything but. However Deadliest Catch was different.

We, Natives of the NW have a way about us. Free spirits, hard working yet laid back, the lovers/caretakers of nature. With the mountains above us, valleys below us, the vast ocean stretched before us. We take pride knowing that we live in one of the most beautiful places on Earth. The men of Deadliest Catch magnify this spirit tenfold. Bordering on insane to take on Mother Nature, the vast sea, the dangers they can bestow.

While their occupations drew me in, the personalities made me want to watch. Soon Captain Phil became my favorite. Here was a man that partied hard in his youth, worked even harder, was told that he would not amount to anything, he set out to prove them wrong. While he grew up in Ballard Washington, the ocean was his home.

Through the eyes of the camera. We came to realize that the one thing Phil loved more than the sea, were his boys Josh and Jake. When he candidly admitted his mistakes as a parent, I could relate. For I have made my share.
The love that he showed through his laughter, his teaching, even yelling to get through to them, made me feel he was a kindred spirit. I could hear so many of my own words, in the ones he spoke. Only wanting the best for them, he knew what it would take. Giving them every opportunity within his grasp, to make their own dreams become reality.

With a history of blood clots that hospitalized him during the prior crabbing season. He came back for the 2009/2010 season. Yet his health was still in question. Within his words, actions, there were subtle signs. Signs that he may not be around to teach his boys, all he wanted them to know. Say all what he wanted to say. Instead he focused on the most important message of all. They were loved and he was proud of the men they had become.

On January 29th 2010 while the Cornelia Marie crew off loaded their catch. Captain Harris suffered a massive stroke. While he gave a valiant fight. On February 9th, 2010, Phil lost the battle. Which was my son's 13th birthday. As I read the news on the Internet, I held in the tears. At one minute after midnight I allowed them to fall.

Last September I had the opportunity to meet Josh and Jake Harris at the Commercial Fisherman's Festival in Astoria, Oregon. Through the gentle reminders of well meaning fans, their heart aches, own personal issues. These two young men showed maturity beyond their years. For while they have become reality stars. No one can fake genuine kindness and gratitude. That is what they showed us on that day.

To grieve for a father, have your source of income taken from you, to battle addictions, face problems, Problems that no one should have to deal with that young, is hard enough. Yet, to do it while the world watches is beyond my comprehension.

During the time my own father worked in professional sports. I became the unfortunate witness to the ruin fame can do to a person. How public figures can be used, then thrown away by the establishment, the fans, the very people who put them on that pedestal.

My wish for Jake and Josh is this, That they put their time in the limelight into perspective, that they hang on to their true friends, follow their own dreams. May they ask for help when needed. Know that the true character of a person is not in the absence of making mistakes. It is in the ability to face a new day, fight the good fight. Stay true to themselves.

May they continue to lean on, believe in one another. For in the end what matters most is love, honor, family. May they forever look to their father as their role model, for he was the finest example of this.

What might have been their father's most important lesson of all, he saved for his last. What really matters in the end, is the journey. Who you chose to love along the way. Who chose to love you unconditionally. For that is the true measure of success.

Phil Harris, There are very few as blessed as you were. For in this life, you were loved by so many. May you have found peace on your new path in uncharted waters.

Thank you for the memories Captain. Your legacy lives on.

Earth Day 2010

I have been meaning to re-launch this blog for sometime. The thoughts have been there along with the time. So why not? A dozen milestones have come and gone. Why start with Earth Day?
Because Mother Earth is crying out for help and it is up to us. We can talk about our carbon footprints or global warming. The need to recycle, protect our wildlife, use less fossil based fuels and even planting more trees.
Yet,I will save those issues so close to my heart for a later date. Today is about universal energy. The light that flows through everything and everyone. Our connection with one another.
Call me a modern day hippie. I believe in Peace. A major political issue that we mere citizens have no control over. Or do we? Peace does not start with power house nations it begins with us. It begins with acceptance.

Growing up my parents exposed me to all different kinds of people. Of every color, religion and economic status. Giving me the wonderful experiences of all heritages, backgrounds. Within my work as a makeup artist and the theatre, I found myself making friends with those of different sexual orientations. I learned early on that love sees no color. That money does not give you class. Nor does the lack of it give you none. That love is a wonderful, marvelous thing that should not be discouraged in what ever form it has been blessed upon us. That every one has a story that deserves to be heard.

Being a mom of a special needs child has taught me that one must not judge. Thirteen years ago I may have believed in accepting those you were different. Yet, my voice remained silent. I may myself have judged someone without knowing them. My son changed that, teaching me that it is okay to be different. That within judgement comes pain. Real emotional pain that was inflicted on my son by classmates, strangers, even some of our friends.

My sweet son who has nothing but love in his pure heart, who has done nothing wrong but to be autistic. His stimming, his social awkwardness, his world, leaves him vulnerable. Vulnerable to verbal and physical attacks, rude stares and comments from those who know nothing about him. To even be shunned from parties that our once so called friends had without an invite with his name on it. He learned early on that being different was not acceptable in today's society. I am out to prove that being different can be and should be celebrated. My mission is for him to celebrate his differences, see them as a blessing, not a curse.

While I cannot shield him from ignorant people. I can raise him in an environment that celebrates everyone and their unique qualities. To surround him with loving spirits that will lift him up.
Within our circle of friends that are more like family. He along with his older sister find comfort in those of all nationalities, economic status, religions/spiritualities and sexual orientation. Strong role models that provide them with the love, the foundation on which to base their own independence. So, they too that can learn that love knows no color, that money does not give you class, nor the lack of it gives you none, that love in no matter what form is a marvelous gift.

So my message, my request this Earth Day is to celebrate Universal energy. To look beyond the stereotypes and find it in your heart to accept those different than yourself.

Instead of shunning that neighbor of a different race than you. Smile and say hello, start a conversation, maybe you will become fortunate enough to make a new friend. Instead of judging those with less material goods than yourself, donate to a food pantry or homeless shelter. Feel blessed that you are in the position to help. When you see a gay couple holding hands, replace your hate and disgust with happiness and joy. Celebrate the fact that they are sharing their love with each other, with the world. Attend a church or spiritual celebration with those of different beliefs than yourself. Have an open mind, an open heart.

When your son or daughter's birthday approaches encourage them to invite that kid in class, neighborhood that is a bit different, the one who has a hard time making friends. You cannot imagine how much that would mean to that child and their parents. You cannot imagine the impact it can have on your own child.

Everyone has the ability to change the world, one moment, one act of kindness, one small wonder at a time. Uplifting words, actions tend to come back to us. Blessing the giver with even more positive energy than the receiver.

So you see, Peace is possible, if only in our own hearts.

Happy Earth Day 2010 everyone!
We are all children of the Universe. So be kind and love one another.

Peace, love and light,
Mitzi